it was the simplest question…three little words. “who are you?”
i think in the beginning of this journey, the idea of vocation vs. occupation was one of my biggest hang-ups in trying to answer this question. because in my case, my occupation – geological technician – it doesn’t exactly say much about what i love and what is important to me. don’t get me wrong, i love my job…. i just don’t derive my identity from it. i have never felt ‘called’ to be a geo-tech.
so if my occupation doesn’t tell me who i am, what does? well as a homemaker/wife/mother, my vocation, this is what i love and what is important to me. the only difference is that i don’t get a W-2 at the end of the year for my efforts.
this discovery was a key piece to the puzzle.
the more i thought about it, the more i realized that the things i do everyday that carry out my vocation also express what is important to me…my vocation tells a lot about what i do. what i do is inextricable connected to who i am. and so if that was the case, what other things do i do? what can they tell me about who i am?
for three years i have been exploring this very thing. why it took me three years to figure this out speaks to my very special talent of making things way harder than they need to be. even still, i am proud of my journey…i learned a lot about myself. and it opened up my eyes to all of the things i do that, even though i might not get paid for them, bring my life joy and meaning.
what i have learned along the way is that with any ‘i am’ statement, it has nothing to do with the amount of money you make or the title you wear. the answer to that all important $64,000 question lies in what you do. because i believe that what you do is who you are. every single day, in the ordinary and mundane, it is in our actions that we discover our identity.
and so what that being said, my dear friends, i thought i might i share with you how i can finally answer that all important question, ‘who am i?’.
- i am a Christian…i am a child of God saved by Grace
- i am a daughter and a sister
- i am a wife
- i am a mother
- i am a homemaker
- i am a sentimental, nostagia junkie
- i am a photographer
- i am a blogger
- i am a gardener, baker, seamstress, and crafter
- i am a bookworm
- i am a mess-maker
- i am a wine enthusiast
- i am a coffee drinker
- i am a nature lover
- i am a homebody
- i am an introvert
- i am a data organizer
- i am a problem solver
- i am a runner
- i am a friend
- i am a student of life
- i am an over-thinker and over-achiever
- i am a perfectionist
- i am (occasionally) a cuticle-picking, nail-biter
- i am a chocolate addict
- i am a science nerd
- i am (sometimes) my own worst enemy
- i am hopelessly optimistic
- i am a dreamer and a believer
in the end, i guess what i have finally learned is that who i am has very little to do with how the world sees me…but rather, it has everything to do with how i see myself. and now, i am beginning to like what i see.
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from the archives
Carrie says
YOU forgot glue gun fiend!! and you put friend way to low on the list! hahahahahaha and lets add Best in front on friend! Cause you are AWESOME!!!!
kelly says
you are so right…i stand corrected. love you so much. xoxoxo
Jackie Fleming says
I have been following your thought-provoking words, and I am in a similar place in my life. Each time I read them, I am so comforted to know that someone else is feeling the same way I am. I want to say thank you to you for making it a very important journey, or as I have started to think of it as “a season in my life.” I am taking the time to figure out who I am after all these years. Your words are so inspirational and wonderful!
kelly says
oh jackie…this is so sweet. thank you so much for this lovely compliment. it’s always so comforting to know that i’m not the only one who feels this way. thank you again for reaching out.
Cathy says
i loved this…
great post Kelly and it is like you read my mind.
Mom says
Beautiful pic child. I’m so proud of you!
Tracie says
I just only met you but I think you are just as beautiful inside as out and it’s clear the joy of Jesus in you, I just see you shine. And I always feel as if I can relate and that always feels so nice.